I read in another thread that some couples had been doing couples/marriage workbooks while significant other is locked up. The thought intrigued me and I mentioned it to my honey... he said he was nervous when I gave him a hard time about the fact he chuckled about it at first, but now we're getting settled "In" with a routine and both think it would help during this time we are physically apart. We've definatly had our ups and downs through the years in our relationship and want when he gets out for it to be stronger than it ever has... NOW.. what I'm asking is suggestions of titles that we can work on together via mailing correspondence. Any suggestions?!?!
Thanks as always!!
Hubby and I have done marriage workbooks since he has been in. I order one and send to him and order one for me (usually from Amazon). We do a chapter a week and send our answers to each other. They have helped us grow closer for sure.
I wanted to share this last one we have been working on it's really awesome and suggest yall do this one!!
It's the Marriage You've Always Wanted by Gary Chapman. It has been the best one we've done yet. It is a Bible study so if you are not interested in what the Bible has to say it may not be for you.
Some of the Chapters are
Enhancing my Conversation with God
Enhancing my Conversation with my Spouse
Learing to Forgive
Learining to Love
Maing Money an Asset to Marriage
That's just a few of them....
I do a lot of couple's counseling and there are two books that I highly recommend:
'Nonviolent Communication' by Marshall Rosenburg. In my opinion, this is far an away the best book for keeping a marriage together. I give a copy of it as a wedding gift anytime I am invited to a wedding. It also has a companion workbook.
The second is, 'Loving What Is' by Byron Katie. You can get a sense of what both of these books deal with by doing a search on Youtube for their names.
Neither of these books are Bible study. They teach that how we react to external stimuli is our own responsibility and as such, we can learn the skills necessary to take full responsibility for our thoughts and emotions instead of passing on our "baggage" to anyone else. The motto, one might say, is "Disagreements? Yes. Disagreeable-ness? NEVER!!" Without contentment, no amount of money will make one feel wealthy; without deep and honest communication skills, no marriage will be healthy.
The main proponent to a healthy marriage is to get those IN the marriage as emotionally healthy as possible. Any emotional or mental baggage from our past that we bring into our present relationship will damage our present relationship to some degree. The less baggage, the happier the relationship.
May your marriage be joyful through all its phases.
hello, i am interested in this marriage work book with God, could you tell me where you purchased it from or what it is called so i can look it up on amazon. thank you so much =]
Originally Posted by Pennydc1
It's the Marriage You've Always Wanted by Gary Chapman.
never heard of this... but i think it'd be interesting.
Originally Posted by jgtmomof2
We have done several workbooks and we LOVE doing them together. They have Bible based as well as not...depending on your preference. I highly recommend doing the workbooks!! It opens up a lot of communication and questions you didn't even know you had. Amazon has quite a few to choose from!!
I've just watched a little of Dr. Gary Chapman speak about his book and listened to some of what he teaches and it seems to be pretty similar to what's in the two books I mentioned above. "To have a better marriage, work to change yourself and in doing so, it shows your partner how they might do the same." Very good. I will continue to check out this author and his writings. (Funny thing, I've never even been married...but then, the Kama Sutra was written by a celibate monk.)
Upon a little longer study, the only difference between what Dr Chapman teaches and the methods for developing a strong relationship presented in the books I mentioned is an occasional reference about God (which I fully KNOW exists from my own experience) and he uses the word "prayer" in places where I use "meditation" and other authors use "silence". Seems to be an excellent teacher.