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alocsLADY · #11 11-17-2009, 10:44 AM

I'm going to keep it real. Yes I have thought about it. Not even gonna lie and live in some fanstasy world. I go out and still. I'm still young so I don't want my life to past me by with regrets like oh I should of done this or that.I still go out with my friends every once in awhile, not all the time but every once in awhile I will go to a party or a club. I do live in las vegas so things are always popping. There are guys everywhere. In the beginning all of my loves homeboys were trying to get at me, but in my head I always thought like what if I did do something with someone. My man always said if you are going to cheat don't cheat with my homeboys. This is when I realized that I couldn't do it. Me and my man were having a rough time and my home girl hit me up and was like my homeboy thought you were cute blah blah.. I thought he was cute too but that's innocent we can think people are cute it won't kill us. Anyways.. it crossed my mind I was going to tell her give him but number then I thought again like WTF am I doing? Turtle (my man) is where I wanna be..that's where my heart is. I love him and everything I do I do it for him. I have never felt the way I do like they way I do when I'm with him. Yes we have our ups and downs. When I get lonely I got toys haha. Some days are hard though when you just want to share something with them or have that person to hang out with. So to keep my mind from wandering I spend time with his family or his son or I work or go to school. Or I spend time with my friends. My real friends the girls that have always been there. Whenever we are out I represent my man to the fullest, specially around his friends. So when he does get out his homeboys will be like you have a good girl by yourside. I've thought about it, but I never go in with it. I love my man alot and one time with another guy will never compare or even be worth losing everything I have worked for and put so much effort into.

Shay · #12 11-17-2009, 11:35 AM

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Originally Posted by MrsMurphy36

I have never thought about cheating on him but for now my toy just gets extra action....but even if I thought about cheating..they could never satisfy me like he does so why bother..When you love someone no one else will do.

OMG, that is exactly how I feel. I love my husband soo much. I get "needy" sometimes, but I try to ride it out. I have toys as well, but what we have done is have phone sex during his phone calls. That way, we still have that connection and he knows that I'm releasing with him and only him. Yes I've thought about straying, but the love I have for him and the vow that I took with him before God is sustaining me. All we have to do is keep praying and since I know I am weak for his touch. I keep my self out of situations that I know I probably won't be able to control.
Shay

MrsMurphy36 · #13 11-17-2009, 06:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Shay

OMG, that is exactly how I feel. I love my husband soo much. I get "needy" sometimes, but I try to ride it out. I have toys as well, but what we have done is have phone sex during his phone calls. That way, we still have that connection and he knows that I'm releasing with him and only him. Yes I've thought about straying, but the love I have for him and the vow that I took with him before God is sustaining me. All we have to do is keep praying and since I know I am weak for his touch. I keep my self out of situations that I know I probably won't be able to control.
Shay

Shay,
I think you hit the nail on the head. Stay out of situations that you know will get you in trouble. It's funny how your man sometimes thinks you have all this time to be messing around and being a busybody when all you're doing is trying to hold it down and be there for him, without breaking down from missing him so much.

Isaiah'smom · #14 11-17-2009, 10:11 PM

We've had this conversation and my BF says that he doesn't expect me to not have sex for the next five years and knows he could never ask me to be alone. However, he has requested that I not have another man around our son. I think if I did stray it would simply be a hook-up and that's all. But even then, when you think about it, hook-ups aren't usually all that. Right now, I've got too much going on with work and the baby. Sex is the last thing one my mind most days.

Shay- I'm impressed with the phone sex, how brave. I'd be too nervous of them monitoring that call!

Matty'sDelicia · #15 11-17-2009, 11:46 PM

I agree that I miss the connection more than anything. Cheating has entered my mind, but I talk to my hubby and realize that I miss him and not the sex.

Shay · #16 11-18-2009, 09:40 AM

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Originally Posted by Isaiah'smom

We've had this conversation and my BF says that he doesn't expect me to not have sex for the next five years and knows he could never ask me to be alone. However, he has requested that I not have another man around our son. I think if I did stray it would simply be a hook-up and that's all. But even then, when you think about it, hook-ups aren't usually all that. Right now, I've got too much going on with work and the baby. Sex is the last thing one my mind most days.

Shay- I'm impressed with the phone sex, how brave. I'd be too nervous of them monitoring that call!

Oh Well!!
Let me have a congecal visit!!!! (however it's spelled)

Shay · #17 11-18-2009, 09:43 AM

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Originally Posted by Shay

OMG, that is exactly how I feel. I love my husband soo much. I get "needy" sometimes, but I try to ride it out. I have toys as well, but what we have done is have phone sex during his phone calls. That way, we still have that connection and he knows that I'm releasing with him and only him. Yes I've thought about straying, but the love I have for him and the vow that I took with him before God is sustaining me. All we have to do is keep praying and since I know I am weak for his touch. I keep my self out of situations that I know I probably won't be able to control.
Shay

Okay Ladies,
I have something to add to this which really helps back up my point from yesterday's post. Well, I had a dream last night that I slept with someone else. Even in the dream, where that's my imagination, my feelings, etc. IT WASN'T WORTH IT. I was even sick to my stomach in my dream after it happened. I even cried and got pissed because he didn't satisfy my like my husband does and DANGIT this was a dream.
Now ladies, if it wasn't good enough to do in a dream, it sure wouldn't be good enough in actuality...at least for me.
I know for sure, because the dreams I've had of my husband since he's been gone have woke me up they were so good!!!

nelly21 · #18 11-18-2009, 12:17 PM

my bf has been locked up for almost 7 months now.. we been together for almost 3 yrs now. we have had rollercoaster type of relationship. i was faithful to him until the 4th month. i did screwed up big time not only once but twice. i never thought i was goin to do this to him, and everytime i think about it i feel terrible which is everyday. its not worth it. i threw everything we had in couple of min. i havent told him because he is already goin thru so much, but i do not plan to tell him. my advice to anyone who has thought about it is to not do it. its not worth it at all.