Stressed and pissed

[misschay]

I REALLY DONT WANT TO GO TO DEEP WITH THIS BUT I REALLY NEED SOME ADVICE!!!!

Ok so over the weekend i found out that the victims family been writing the Warden of the prison. his eailest to get out is 2013 with good behavior and 2014 if they jus wanna hold him! but the max sentence is 2021. Now my problems with the whole this is everybody knows it was an accident and the Victims were actually HIS FRIEND but they still tryna burn him! im mad because jus like my bae i KNOW the victim and the family as well! we all grew up together and it jus so happens that before any of this stuff happend with Speed i didnt like his friend. he was always two faced and thats why i didnt want Speed around him. and now he tryna throw him under the bus. i wanna go fight him so freakin badly but i cant afford to cause mor trouble. i havent told Speed this information yet i dont know if i should or if i should jus do what i need to to to help his case to the Warden when its time for him to be released. i dont think i cause deal with 2021 by then i'll be 34 and he'll be 36. this is killin me cause i so dont know what to do!! please shine some light on me!!!

[luvinhim24/7]

Well girl,
I just want to tell you not to lose focus.. just because they write or call dont mean they will hold him.. Your man needs to stay positive and keep doing what he is suppose to.. dont get him all upset over something he cant change or control. You guys need to think ok what classes am I going to take.. how can i better my chances.. you and your loved ones need to keep writting the parole board (not only when he is to be reviewed) but continue to let them know he has a support system..I know youre angry and just plain pissed off and i understand how it goes..but dont let them get you both down. Pray pray and pray some more.. I've never been a total "holy rolly" but never have I doubted the power of prayer. It doesnt help to hear someones else pain all the time but look my man was put in at 16 years old.. he just had his 32 birthday... and finally they are letting him out in Mar 2010.. STAY FOCUSED GIRL.. dont do anything you will regret. Good luck and I hope all turns out in your favor.

[vblizzy]

Yes, stay focused, it doesn't mean he wont make his ERD... My BF has a victim too and all during his court process, she begged and begged and did all she could do to get him the max amount of time for his charge, which is a floater.. it carries from 3yrs to 10yrs in his case.. Even at his sentencing she showed up and spoke before the judge giving a very vivid picture of making him out to be somekind of monster and a menace to society and once again begged the judge to give him the max, which was 10 years. The judge was not buying it.. he gave him 60 months (5yrs) for the assault... Which I feel was plenty since she provoked everything that happened that day.. which caused her to become his victim.. I'm sure I'll have to deal with her sometime in the future, as well.. As long as your BF is doing what is required of him and taking all of his required programs/classes and not getting into much trouble, he could make his ERD.. I wrote two letters of support for my BF during his court hearings.. and on the day of his sentencing the Judge said that he recieved two support letters from me and he did read them and take them into consideration.. So, keep the letters going to the parole board, they do read them and they do consider them.. have others send letters too. let the good outweigh the bad... Good Luck!

[misschay]

thanks for the advice ladies but what would i say to the parole board? i mean i never wrote them b4 what do i say?

[mamalion]

They can write who ever what ever they want this doesn't mean a thing...He will get out as long as he stays ticket free and no problems in there...Just stay calm they are just trying to upset you and in return get to him..So stay focussed as the other ladies have recommended..You have plenty of time to write to the parole board at least 2 and half years just think about it and jot things down that are positive and when time to write you will have notes to inspire the actual letter...I hope this has eased your mind some...Have a blessed evening

[misschay]

thank you

[luvinhim24/7]

Well as for writting the letters.. you can simple tell them about you. and how you are doing everything you can to provide a home of him.. I can only speak of what I wrote but I let them know who i was.. i told them my prior serve in the military.. my jobs.. the schooling I've done let them know just because because my man was/is a "convict" doesnt mean his family and friend are all criminals. Let them know you got a good head on your shoulders. Tell them you have a home, a car a good job whatever applies to you. Let them know if they want to contact you they can at anytime. Leave yourself open for that. One thing you should NOT do is say is how much you miss him and need him and want to be with him.. NO ONE CARES .. well they dont of course we all but when talking to them knuckle heads keep it to the fact.. if you can prove it write.. hope this helps.

[mamalion]

Originally Posted by misschay

thank you

You are very welcome

[Dawgette]

I can't tell you anything they haven't already told you so all I can really do is give you my support. It's rotten what they're doing to him but you can't let it get to you. In the end, it'll be your guys actions an attitude in there and the board who decide his outcome. Not them. Even in the worst case scenario, I realize at your age you probably see 32 as being old but it's not. Me and my guy just turned 37 this year (our birthdays are a month apart) and we're looking at a good 50 years together yet.

[misschay]

im tryin ya'll!!! i really am! i jus cant stand this guy i mean i really cant stand him. My bae already gotta live with this **** for the rest of his life i mean isnt that enough! you suppose to be his friend and instead of tryin to work it out u findin people in the same prison to pay to fight him i mean what the ****! when Speed told me that some guy tried to run up on him and hit him he moved in time and didnt hit him back cause the guard was there. but im glad the guard was there cause it ould have gotten worse. i mean im at the point that if i were to see this jackass in the street i really jus might "blackout" and who knows what will happen. i told him aint no more livin in our same neighborhood we are goin far away from my city as possible cause i dont have time for this *** to attempt to do anythin to me because of Speed. Speed would lose his mind if ANYTHING happend to me....all he has is me and his sisters and the ones that defended him on the witness stand. man i jus dont know....maybe i wont tell him i'll jus keep my ears and eye open