Just beginning, need some help

[Ms.Marie Fike]

Im Marie and my Fiance has served 12 yrs already and he has 17yrs more to serve. Im still rite here with him. I just pray they would see those who have been out trouble,doing good, going to work , going to school. It would be nice if they new how much life will be better for them now. I can only say for my Fiance . He is so ready to come home..But we know it wont happen any time soon. But I will keep Praying for everyone.
............................Marie................. .........

[adrianG]

Hello all,

i'm already feelin depressed... dunno what to do??? Is it ME, or can someone PLEASE shed some light into my situation and let me know this too shall pass???

My husband has recently started mentioning that he knows that I am walking away from him... he speaks of the end... and of his understanding when the time comes. He breaks my heart everytime he mentions something along those lines, I have made every effort to assure him and re-assure him that I am NOT planning on going anywhere!!! But at times I think it is him that wants to ended it and do his time in peace. I love him and miss him very much- unfortunately, he was moved to Susanville and we have not spoken or seen each other since August '09... I have sent my visiting form but have this feeling that he is holding back the approval letter.

Any and ALL suggestions and comments are welcomed!

Thank you!

[Shay]

I know exactly how you feel. My husband is going through that as well. Some days he tells me it's better for me to move on so I don't have to stop my life because of what he did. I reassure him as well that I'm not going anywhere. He knows I love him and would do anything for him. I tell him that he shows me just how much he loves me by pushing me away. Because how many men that really loves their family wants someone else there? Not many, I have to pray through those conversations and letters because I know that he is hurting as well.
So keep reasuring him of your love and commitment. He knows you love him, he just wants better for you.
I'll keep you in my prayers, as I ask you to keep me in yours, because we have hard roads ahead of us. But guess what! "And This Too Shall Pass"

[Hootie]

No matter how you look at it, 20 yrs is a long time for you. You are in your prime. Don't lie to yourself on your husband. Life is hard and trying. Do what you have to do to keep you self in tact. Your shoulders will have to be strong for such a burden. Take one day at a time.

[Hootie]

Originally Posted by adrianG

Hello all,

i'm already feelin depressed... dunno what to do??? Is it ME, or can someone PLEASE shed some light into my situation and let me know this too shall pass???

My husband has recently started mentioning that he knows that I am walking away from him... he speaks of the end... and of his understanding when the time comes. He breaks my heart everytime he mentions something along those lines, I have made every effort to assure him and re-assure him that I am NOT planning on going anywhere!!! But at times I think it is him that wants to ended it and do his time in peace. I love him and miss him very much- unfortunately, he was moved to Susanville and we have not spoken or seen each other since August '09... I have sent my visiting form but have this feeling that he is holding back the approval letter.

Any and ALL suggestions and comments are welcomed!

Thank you!

Don't fall for the drama honey! Men play mind games when they are confined. Write you husand and let him know that he has to "man up" and do what he has to do. Let him know that if his conversation don't change you will not write or take his calls. And better yet, stop sending money for his books. Remember something, you did not put him there.

[Hootie]

Originally Posted by jenelle18

im new also. My name is Jenelle im 18 and my boyfriend was just sentenced to life plus 13 1/2 to 27 years and sent upstate to sci camp hill. Im new to all this so what should i expect?? i dont plan on leaving him hanging cuz im the only one he sorta has. Most of his family left him alone and his friends also left him hanging so im the only one out here for him but i need someone or anyone to let me know what im going to expect. Is the procedure totally different from the county??? can sumone get back to me ASAP PLZ feel free to email me also

Hello young lady. This is my 2nd time around. Hope you are well. Okay, here's my take on your situation. You are 18 yrs old. Your life has just begun my dear. As for the time that your man has ... don't think about devoting your life to someone that has no chance of coming home. You can continue to be a friend and supprt him, but rememer that you did not put him there, he made his own choices. A person with that kind of time will work our brain overtime. Do you babygirl.

[alocsLADY]

hey... I'm very new to. My love one has 8-20 yrs but we are appealing his case right now. Let me tell you each day is different some days are easier some days are harder.....but i love him so damn much i know exactly what you mean. I miss him so much. You just gotta stay strong and lots of communication. I talk to him almost 3 or more times a day. Write him every chance i get and just him update with everything. Don't take the lil time you have with him for granted. Like the phones calls or visit cherish every moment.

[Rdavis44]

God is the creator of time you will have to pray and seek God.The thing that will help you the most is to stay busy in Christ and get a strong support group of prayer partners and also stay active in a ministry,this will help you pass the time.The Lord will give you the strenght to go through whatever trials you have to face and remember he knew that you would be here so he is there with you.Lean on the Lord and know that with God all things are possible he could be released before 20years,committ your way to the Lord and he will give you your hearts desire.Pray for your husband and talk to him about repentance and the things of God and watch God work a Miracle for your family remember that all things work together for the good for those who are called according to his purpose.Get in the word and reach out to the Lord.


In the love of Christ
Roslyn

[Shay]

Originally Posted by MrsMurphy36

Welcome to the site Shay,
I would suggest you use this time to better yourself as much as possible. Set short term goals leading to long term goals, whether its saving for a vacation or pursuing a career you never thought of. Anything to keep you busy. My main suggestion is keep God at the forefront of all your decsions and choices you plan on making. Ask Him to strengthen and encourage you on this journey. Best of luck to you

Thank you for your response. God is the only thing right now keeping me sain. I have had so many emotions going through me as you probably know about yourself. Right now I am pursuing a higher education. I am currently taking my courses at a local university and hope to apply to the anesthesia school within the next 5 yrs. Funny thing is my husband actually got me back in school last year, he worried me until I started taking classes again. Bad part, he is not here to support me and take up the slack as he did before :-(

[Shay]

Originally Posted by Stacey

I am new also. My husband was locked up last Monday. I finally got a letter from him today but they do not know what prison he will be in yet. I am still trying to get everything straightened out as far as trying to get his paycheck and things like that. My friends tell me I just need to file for divorce and be done with him. He has caused too much stress in my life and my kids lives. They don't understand you don't just stop loving someone because they made a bad mistake. He is to be locked up for 4 yrs.

Girl I wish my husband would have only gotten 4 yrs. Good luck to you on that...