New and really need some advice.(Long)

[Mrsh!]

Originally Posted by Mz_Monique

I actually just got off the phone with someone and a counselor is suppose to be calling to me set up sessions. So hopefully, everything will work itself out.

Good for you! God Bless!
Teri

[mamalion]

Counseling is WONDERFUL but you can't stay shut up in the house...You need to live again..Go out side let the sun warm you as it does it can also heal you..Take control of your life once again you are a new mm new beginnings....Enjoy life for there is so much to enjoy if you choose to....Have a blessed day..

[GAPEACH2005]

Yes, you need to get out and start enjoying life!! If you stay up in the house constantly of course your mind will keep reflecting on what happened. Good luck and hopefully you see the counseling through, it should help!

[cherann]

Originally Posted by mamalion

PART 2
You are the only one that can change this situation if you want to continue with this low life man then so be it, but remember you are not alone any more you have some one else you are responsible for and does she deserve to live the life you would put her through being involved with him..He might change one day but until then i would stay clear of him..You are a soft touch and he knows it and is gonna use it to his advantage...I think i heard you say you sent him money. The money you sent him should be going on your daughter he deserves zero.You say you hate him well then act like it..You will not be the first mother to raise a child alone nor will you be the last....I hope you give this some serious thought and please leave him alone next time he hits the out come might be worse... Love your daughter and live life...Filled with love and happiness she deserves this and so do you..[/B][/COLOR]

Mamaloin AMEM! 5 sons Mamalion God bless you. You really are an angel.

[Wendolyn]

I think you're doing great! The only thing I would caution is getting into another relationship, I strongly believe after going through something like that our judgement gets weakened and anybody is going to look great next to this guy... I have been out of my relationship for almost two years now, which means, thats right, no sex, but for one thing, I'm still in love with "him," so what is another man going to be but a substitute? So I feel good about myself and he is in jail and I am thinking about getting back with him but it sounds like you already gave him a second chance and he blew it, so definitely move on...

[TexasJuneBug]

Hang in there Mz Monique. We're sending positive thoughts and prayers your way!

[Mz_Monique]

I haven't been on here in awhile, but I want to thank everyone for responding and such kind words.

Update:

My daughter's father is still incarcerated. We have talked maybe 3 times this year. I have no intention of every getting back with and really don't plan on seeing him either. I did send him some money and a letter. We had a conversation over the phone where he "thought" I planned to have my daughter. Like I told him, I never planned on having kids period. I didn't even like kids. He wrote me a letter and pretty much called my daughter a mistake. Even though she wasn't planned, she is far from a mistake. After he said that, I pretty much just said screw him and he will never see her. I am going to the courts on next week and hopefully have his parental rights terminated. I am in a great relationship for two months and even though it is still early, he is a great person and I am so happy. I have also moved into a 3 bedroom home on my own with just me, my daughter, and my dog! So to sum things up, he tried to bring me down, but I am too strong of a woman to let that happen.