mom with son in prison

[Sandy - Michigan]

My 32-year-old son is serving 7-17 years in Michigan prison. He's been in over three years. He'd never been in ANY kind of trouble - ever! Honor student, college grad, etc., not a drinker, no drugs, etc. But made very bad choice and will be paying for this for the rest of his life. I feel like I'm serving the sentence also. I'm a school teacher as is my other son ............. this is so very difficult. It's a 1000-mile round trip but I go each month to see him. We BOTH need the visits. What a life-changing event this has been .........

[Troy's Angel]

I sometimes think it's harder on those who are educated...like they "should know better" and of course they do, but a bad choice is a bad choice no matter what the job or education level. My friend is also college grad, married, 2 kids, popular coach/teacher but he too made a choice that will label him the rest of his life. But like I say is so many of my posts, we need to trust God at this point. There will be an end to this. Keep your head up, a smile on your face and know that you are not alone. God bless

[dspatley]

Bad choices and thinking that you're smarter than the law and will not get caught is what has gotten my son locked up time and time again. The number one bad choice is giving in and being a slave to drugs which led him down the path of crime and punishment. This time he is serving 48 months for something stupid AGAIN. But, this time is different; I think he has finally seen the light and will come out in September with a clear head and focus on taking care of his wife and children. I'm getting a good feeling about his desires to stay free.

[jmsca.mom]

also new to j-p and very very much miss my baby.much easier to talk here with those who can relate???? Hoping

[Kimmie40]

Originally Posted by tammym

Hey guys, new to forum, like to talk to others with children in prison. My son just got sent to trindad colorado. He is doing well, but mom has her moments. I am very blessed to have great support and blessed that he is okay. He is a young man of 20 and a great kid at heart, he made bad choices which they sometimes do, but i love him regardless. hope to hear from parents. god bless and until then tammy

In the same situation, my son is only 19, and he just went in last month on the 22. It is very hard, but this site helps me get through it. I pray every day too.

[peace4me]

Originally Posted by chedee57

djsmom,
Do the bad days get better over time?
My son just started his sentence (two consecutive sentences totaling 25 years). I have been trying to deal with the situation as best I can, I make jokes about it on the outside but inside I feel like a part of me has died. I'm raising his young daughter and I try very hard to sheild her from what is going on. I tell her that Daddy has an important job and we can't stay at his house. But don't know what I'm going to tell her when we can start visitation with him. Or when she is old enough to understand, right now I don't want her thinking that the police took her daddy away or have any bad feelings toward them. But how do you tell a 5 year old that Daddy did this to himself?

I have a 6 year old son who was 5 when his dad went to prison. He is serving 4 years. I didn't tell him much about why his dad was there only that he did something wrong that was against the law and has to take his punishment. My son has accepted it and is ok with it most of the time even thought he misses him badley. I just think that telling the truth is what you have to do. The child will eventually find out will be crushed to know that they have been lied to.

[reba]

i know how you feel my sons in bradshaw prison in texas. a good kid even though he's 23 he will always be my baby. he's made some bad choices and has try to do good but sometimes bad things happen to good people,he has a heart of gold but a he protects his friends and family and that got him into trouble.and now here we are......

[reba]

Originally Posted by peace4me

I have a 6 year old son who was 5 when his dad went to prison. He is serving 4 years. I didn't tell him much about why his dad was there only that he did something wrong that was against the law and has to take his punishment. My son has accepted it and is ok with it most of the time even thought he misses him badley. I just think that telling the truth is what you have to do. The child will eventually find out will be crushed to know that they have been lied to.

I guess I got lucky, My son is doing 18 months and he didn't want his nieces coming to see him.So I told him they love him so much and can't wait 18 months to see him.So I know I should tell them the truth about where he's at. But their only 4 and 5 so I lied to them and now when we go visit him, they think he's working with the police and stays with them In some ways that"s not a lied he does work in the kicthen so was i wrong to lie to them?Are is it better this way?Thinking he's doing good and just lives where he works..

[4myson]

My son is also incarcerated. He was sentenced to 140 years. I am shattered. I have three sons and he will never sit at our table for a Thanksgiving or Christmas dinner again. It will be a pain in my heart I will take to my grave. My sympathy and blessings to you.

[4myson]

I am there with you Sandy...life changing indeed!!!!!!!