I am fairly new to this forum and have a 19 year old son sentenced to prison for 2 years. He has made terrible choices in his life and I am hoping that this is the wake up call he needs. I feel like I am being used by him to put money in his account for store items and stamps, to purchase the $85 secure pak for him, to keep money in his phone account. He also had a 2 year old son that his father and I are making sure he has everything he needs and trying to maintain a relationship with him so he does not forget his father while he is prison. I send him pictures of his son every couple of weeks. I write him on jpay a couple of times a week. I found out today that he is taking the pictures I send him and sending them to his girlfriend (that I thought they had broken up) so she can see how big the baby is getting. We do not approve of this girl and don't trust her at all. I am not blaming her for what our son has done but she is not completely innocent either, she just was not implicated at all. I want to send him an email and yell at him and to tell him how used I feel and how by continuing a relationship with this girl he is continuing to make bad decisions for his life. He was first locked up in county jail in April and transferred to prison in August. In all of this time I have received two letters from him and is not because he does not have the money for stamps and envelopes. Then I find out he is taking things I am sending him and mailing them to her. He does call me every couple of days, because I make sure he has money to make phone calls. I am so mad at him again I don't know what to do. I'm afraid that if I do tell him how I feel he will end up getting mad and doing something stupid and cause more trouble for himself. How do you other mothers deal with thier children when they are mad at them and in prison. Do I not get him upset until I know that he can handle or it or really let him know how I feel? I know this is long but could really use some advice.