Can you help?

[MelisTX]

The love of my life is serving time, and believe me I never thought I'd be "one of those girls" who were dating or married to a man behind bars. No one understands what you are about to go through, unless they have also been in your shoes. I'm not the one doing time, but many times I feel as if I'm doing time with him. When preparing for the sentencing, or your loved one actually being sent away to begin serving time, all I can suggest is to be realistic and hope and pray for the best. An inmate's life doesn't stop once they get incarcerated, in fact a whole new chapter in their life begins. The same can be said for their loved ones who are affected by their sentencing. To cope with it all, stay in touch with eachother as much as possible. Write letters, go visit your loved one in person, and do both as much as you can. This will prove to be therapeutic to both the inmate and yourself. I'd suggest being open and honest about your feelings, hopes, and fears. Most likely your loved one serving time shares the exact feelings, hopes, and fears that you do. Be strong, take care of yourself, and stay in touch with the inmate as much as possible. Time will only tell what the future will hold for the both of you. Everyone's story is different, so just follow your heart.

[skybluenoc]

thank you for the advice, especially the part about being honest, about your feelings